im learning a lot here.. it's good..
by the way, Ephesians 6:1 - about honoring father and mother? please note: "in the Lord" children have the right to disagree. the question is this: how will they know if it is God's willl or not that their parents is deciding? simple : read the Bible and seek God. Not all parents are objective. Majority are subjective.
I am not an indian but i am a victim of this situation.
I feel offended with how this guy whom i fell inlove with reacted towards interracial stuffs?
My ex boyfriend
reasoned out about being disowned (due to shame in society and in church) and all. He wanted an
abortion due to fear of his father but I do not want to do it so I end up alone.
I am not regretting because I now have a son. I'm just
thankful that I am highly educated and my finances are
not a major problem to think about. He's doing nothing
in his life now. He said he wasn't allowed interracial
marriages and if ever he would be disowned, he knows he
cannot survive without his parent's money. i was informed that his parents changed churches. He's got no
balls and he has no shame because he continued his
other relationships to some other girls (from my race -
take note: he claimed that he's not allowed inter
racial stuffs but look at his actions)while being an
irresponsible father to my kid (by the way, he
2-3-4-nth timed me). He was not disowned but he hated
me much for informing his family. I do not understand
why people need to act clean in front of everyone else
in Kerala even if they are really rotten inside. I
don't want to mention names but it really damn hurts to
be left out. Having no money isn't an excuse and being part of a conservative church that disciplines members for these cases is not an excuse to abort the baby. A guy's
greatness is not measured by the amount of his
paychecks but by the effort he exerted. In this case?
He never even asked about the baby. Shame on him. By
the way, he wanted to have a clean reputation in my
son's eyes as well as to his future arranged marriage
wife and in laws if there are any Indian girl he and
his family could fool. (actually, one girl wrote to me
: pretended to be his wife and she received harsh words
from me). His parents? I think they are acting as if
they know nothing. They are well educated but I cannot
see the democracy in their lives. Is that really harsh
in Kerala? He is such a black sheep. What do you call a
guy who's willing to turn his back to his firstborn
son? Is it because that it's outside wedlock? Gosh.
What does forgiveness meant? Why is it so important to please people more than to please God? And now, I shoulder every burden because of these. I thought they do dawn prayers. Sometimes, i feel i wanted to persecute the Christians / believers in India but I am convicted not to. (sigh)
Yes, I sinned and fell into temptation but I cannot correct one mistake by commiting another mistake so as to make the families in India peaceful including their society. Im thankful to indian pastors i met - they understood my situation but they cant do anything about it because those elders that re close to this family are denying knowing them : i wonder why they dont know them. Is there politics in the churches there? (im not here to offend anyone - just opening minds).