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# 00053 :  Premarital sex
Can a person have premarital sex if he/she is sure about to marry the partner. Is this justified according to Bible.....
Post by : kings_leolh  View Profile    since : 5 Dec 2004


Reply by : Varghese   View Profile   Since : 6 Dec 2004 4:47:13 PM Close
ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Premarital & extra-marital sex are forbidden in the Scriptures along with other immoral activities.

Hebrews 13:4 - "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"

God Bless!

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Reply by : susanmathews   View Profile   Since : 13 Dec 2004 12:03:45 PM Close
some sisters are keeping extra marital activities
that is not good.we hear lot of things now a days
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Reply by : George P. Koshy   View Profile   Since : 14 Dec 2004 8:05:29 AM Close
Dear susanmathews,

I do have a practice that I found very beneficial, especially when people say things about others. (Let us say that when people talk about a person when he/she is not present.) I ask the person who carrys the information, "How do you know this?" When I receive an answer, I ask, "Why do you think that happened?" After hearing the answer, I ask, "Did you discuss this with the other person before you sahred this information with me?" Then I will say, "You should talk to that person first and not to me. If you insist on not talking to the person concerned but talking only to others, then you are a tale bearer and that is forbidden in the scriptures."

Shalom malekim!!!

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Reply by : susanmathews   View Profile   Since : 15 Dec 2004 9:35:00 AM Close
but please note we knew or know many sisters acts.why we should enquire?
but we know this is truth
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Reply by : George P. Koshy   View Profile   Since : 16 Dec 2004 8:19:08 AM Close
Dear susanmathews,

We need to be careful in making a general accussations. Therefore, we need to inquire.

Our character is to be formed while we are young. We should learn good habits. Is it Christian to make general accussations, and then refuse to subastantiate them with evidences? Therefore, we must inquire.

That is all I will say about this.

Shalom malekim!!!

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Reply by : susanmathews   View Profile   Since : 16 Dec 2004 9:50:24 AM Close
you know one lady is having 3 children
these 3 children got 3 different dads
please tell me whether this is acceptable in any other denomination?
no but it is
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Reply by : drjcp   View Profile   Since : 19 Dec 2004 7:58:59 AM Close
Kindly spare us the gossip.

I very much suspect that MS. SusanMathews is some young frustrated person trying to vent it out here.

Johnson C. Philip

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Reply by : susanmathews   View Profile   Since : 19 Dec 2004 12:36:14 PM Close
dear drjcp
i am not frusterated.
you know the facts
even then you are pretending
dont cover the issue by blaming on others
in all other denomination at least they got fear on god
here it is not
see...drjcp...take a survey on divorce cases.
you can find 40 percent goes to born again christians
if you are frustrated find the truth. it will shock you
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Reply by : drjcp   View Profile   Since : 20 Dec 2004 1:58:04 AM Close
Friend, you are not only frustrated, you are also exaggerating.

Just because there are a couple of abnormal cases among us, it does not mean that we simply exaggerate. The figure [nowhere in the world] is 40% and I would love to see documentation if you prsist with this figure. I will also change my stand about numbers if you can demonstrate.

If you are interested in more discussion, kindly start a new thread, and please leave this thread for discussion of the original topic

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Reply by : drjcp   View Profile   Since : 20 Dec 2004 2:05:02 AM Close
The original question was: can consenting couples have pre-marital sex if they are definitely going to marry.

The question has several components, and it will help us to answer the question better if we understand the components first.

We need to answer this question because it is repeatedly put in front of Christians, and unless we are well-informed, we cannot give a reasonable answer.

Johnson C. Philip

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Reply by : susanmathews   View Profile   Since : 20 Dec 2004 11:01:33 AM Close
i am sorry
this is premarital sex
not extra marital sex
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Reply by : ba   View Profile   Since : 2 Jan 2005 6:55:40 PM Close
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Reply by : ba   View Profile   Since : 2 Jan 2005 7:05:32 PM Close
NNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. If that is the case: mother and father will get a stick and give you a hard spanking with each strike.
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Reply by : ba   View Profile   Since : 2 Jan 2005 7:06:15 PM Close
Susan, that includes you from my posting above.
Your a nasssttttyyy girrrrrll.
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Reply by : ba   View Profile   Since : 2 Jan 2005 7:11:19 PM Close
Im a still virgin, I have NEVER had any relations. Im saving my purity for marriage. This is VUT my MUUUMMMYY and DDDAAUUDDDYYY said, "Yuurr EDUCAATTIONN IS your Number one prrrrriority"
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Reply by : charaka   View Profile   Since : 3 Jan 2005 3:27:12 AM Close
dear Ba ever thought of seeing a shrink?

dont bug people with unnessasary and absolutely worthless posts
im surgeon and being nice i donot wish tp prpose the teratment we give for uncontrolled psychotics

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Reply by : ifellinlovewithamalayalee   View Profile   Since : 23 Oct 2011 9:41:54 AM Close

i know one family. they chose to neglect their grandson due to the fact that they do not want to be the talk of the people and talk of the church.Their son was so afraid that he rather wanted to have the baby aborted rather than see his parents frustrated and see peoplemock them,

Sometimes, it's the society that kills our senses of doing what is rightful despite the mistake done prior to that.

What is the problem with that? It happened in accident and the people who committed those have learned their lesson and had been forgiven by God and turned back from what they used to do. but it's just frustrating that some people.. would resort to mistakes and wrongdoings in order to cover up the previous mistakes.

Now, who to blame? They all go to church pretending they dont know anything but at the end ofg the day, each will be judged accordingly.

Good thing the girl never aborted the baby and has very good education background with a new challenging career. She was abandoned. Yes, the son lived but don't you think he need a father? If only people are not so narrow minded and more of a people pleaser than a God pleaser.

Let's al;l help people see the light and not let then carry their own crosses as if it's doomsday for them. Even Jesus in the Bible was once criticized for helping someone on a Sabbath day but he replied that the person already needs immediate help. Why prolong the agony?

logically speaking? ther is always a chance in God. Let's not be self righteous people.

We should follow God not because we fear Him but because we love Him and He deserves it more than anyone else in the world.

Now, this girl and his son has to face the problem on their own,

by the way : issue is also about interracial premarital sex that lead to impregnation. Keralite guy prefers todie than disown by Bible believing parents due to shame.

(sigh). Now, who reads the Bible?

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Reply by : ifellinlovewithamalayalee   View Profile   Since : 23 Oct 2011 9:48:58 AM Close

to avoid the circumstances like that... say NO to premarital sex no matter how sure one is to marry their partner.

It's more of a respect to the one who created us - our Lord.

We never knew how would other Bible believing Christians to react. They might forgive the esence of forgiveness and ridicule those people.

prevention is better than cure.

Besides, i never seen one who has told that theynever regret premarital sex.

Just learn from the experiences of other people.

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Reply by : solo77das   View Profile   Since : 23 Feb 2012 4:50:26 PM Close

 What do mean by for sure that you will marry, Bible clearly speaks the issue of worrying about present not tommorrow. We have no idea what will happen next, so how can we pretty sure that we will live next moment. So please don't do any thing which is prohibited now of thinking that you will be fine tommorrow. Bible strictly say no to pre-marital sex, it means whether you are engaged or marriage is fixed, you are supposed to wait till right moment come. God first created family and than blessed Mankind with union of flesh. So there is no excuse or justification for what you want to do. Argue the right question and think straight based on Bible.

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Reply by : tgeorgechi   View Profile   Since : 23 Feb 2012 10:34:53 PM Close

Dear friends,

My elder was kind enough to loan me this. This survey and report was published in 2008 by the Barna Group. The folks who were surveyed lived in N. America. By the statistics you can see, the divorce rate is still a very high number.

Now in India, the rates might be lower but its highly unlikely any close family member is going to volunteer that information because of our 'shame-based' society and culture. The numbers are increasing but unlike some folks - so called 'generational leaders' of the denomination would have us think otherwise - the reality is that premarital sex, extra marital sex, pornography, alcoholism, abortion, divorce, homosexuality, living together before marriage etc are on the increase in our current social media generation.

Many in our denomination, call themselves 'leaders' - I hope they take the lead to address these issues. It takes a lot of humility to accept the fact that the denomination has fixable moral and spiritual issues that requires investment in the current generation..

 

 

Divorce Among Adults Who Have Been Married

(Base: 3792 adults)


Population Segment Have Been Divorced No. of Interviews
     
All adults 33% 3792
     
Evangelical Christians 26% 339
Non-evangelical born again Chrisitans 33% 1373
Notional Christians 33% 1488
Associated with non Christian faith 38% 197
Atheist or agnostic 30% 269
All born again Christians 32% 1712
All non born again Christians 33% 2080
     
Protestant 34% 1997
Catholic 28% 875
     
Upscale 22% 450
Downscale 39% 367
     
White 32% 2641
African-American 36% 464
Hispanic 31% 458
Asian 20% 128
     
Conservative 28% 1343
Moderate 33% 1720
Liberal 37% 474

(Source: The Barna Group, Ventura, CA)

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Reply by : svarg   View Profile   Since : 17 May 2013 2:44:18 PM Close

 premarital sex and homosexuality are sins

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Reply by : godblesskeralaonly   View Profile   Since : 25 Apr 2017 2:00:48 AM Close

"He lay with her and she became his wife" "why unite with a harlot"?  Guess what, u seal the deal with sex, not some silly ceremony and vows!

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Reply by : mvidyasagar443   View Profile   Since : 21 Jun 2017 5:26:17 AM Close

IF YOU DON'T HAVE REAL CONFESSION IN YOUR HEART YOU NEED TO FACE THE CURSE WHICH WILL COME FROM GOD, EVEN DAVID ALSO CANT'T ESCAPED FROM THAT, THEN HOW U AND ME, OUR GOD IS HOLY HE IS EXPECTING US ALSO TO BE HOLY

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